Firstly, were you taught self-confidence growing up?
Many of us were not, and it is important to be patient with ourselves when that is the case. Confidence is a skill, so it takes times and effort to improve it.
What is Self-Confidence?
- Self confidence is a term used to describe how we view our abilities.
- Those with self-confidence have trust in their own abilities, have a general sense of control in their life, and believe that, within reason, they will be able to do what they wish, plan and expect.
- It is an attitude which allows individuals to have positive, yet realistic, views of themselves and their situations.
- They have realistic expectations; when expectations are not met they continue to remain positive and to accept themselves.
- Confident people can take necessary risks.
- If you are self-confident, you can accept yourself and understand that you have both strengths and weaknesses.
- Those with confident do not base it only on the opinions of others.
- Self-confidence levels are not set in stone.
If you are confident you know what your skills and abilities are and believe you can succeed in what you have to do. If you lack confidence, you are not sure if you can complete the task successfully.
- Confidence is learned.
- Self-efficacy: When we demonstrate skills, accomplish tasks, fulfill responsibilities, and achieve our goals, we build experiences that increase our sense of self-efficacy. This is because when you accomplish something, you will be confident that you can again.
What are some sources of self-confidence?
Examples of self-confidence sources/influences:
1. Successful Actions
2. Working with Others
3. The Power of Words
5. Physiological and Emotional States - HALT/PHALTS - our physical and mental condition impact our confidence (we can't be successful when our needs are not met) HALT and ask yourself if you are struggling with any of the following feelings/challenges:
e. Or Pain Hunger Anger Loneliness Tired Sadness