Self-Compassion/Self-Care

What does the group think Self-Compassion is?

Is it a way of relating to ourselves; if we are being self-compassionate, it can be helpful to avoid comparisons of ourselves to others and judgments. 

Self-compassion is treating yourself with the same kindness and care as if you would treat a friend.

Self-care is the activities we pursue as part of treating ourselves with self-compassion and in order to "refill our furnace."

Self-compassion includes three basic concepts:

Self-Kindness: Allows us to look at our failings and suffering with a gentle perspective and helps us to understand that bad things happen to good people; allow us to accept mistakes in the present and past; none of us are perfect, so we are being most fair is we are patient with ourselves.

Common humanity: It is helpful to remember that struggles, failures, and difficulty are all things that every human experiences at one time or another. By acknowledging that we are not alone in our suffering and struggles, we allow ourselves to feel less isolated. 

Mindfulness: At any given moment, we have many thoughts in our mind and many feelings throughout our body. It is very easy to get caught up and overwhelmed by our thoughts and feelings. Mindfulness is a practice of gently noticing these feelings without judgment: instead of investing ourselves in these sensations, we accept them as part of ourselves but not allow our life in the moment to be controlled by them.

What are some things you do to practice self-care?