The NVC Process

How You Can Use the NVC Process

Clearly expressing how I am without blaming or criticizing      

OBSERVATIONS
1. What I observe (see, hear, remember, imagine, free from my evaluations) that does or does not contribute to my well being: 
"When I (see, hear) . . .

FEELINGS
2. How I feel (emotion or sensation rather than thought) in relation to what I observe: 
"I feel . . ." 

NEEDS
3. What I need or value (rather than a preference, or a specific action) that causes my feelings: 
". . . because I need/value . . ."

REQUESTS
Clearly requesting that which would enrich my life without demanding

4. The concrete actions I would like taken: 
"Would you be willing to . . .?"

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Empathetically receiving how you are without hearing blame or criticism

OBSERVATIONS
1. What you observe (see, hear, remember, imagine, free from evaluations) that does or does not contribute to your well-being:
"When you see/hear . . ."
(Sometimes unspoken when offering empathy)


FEELINGS
2. How you feel (emotion or sensation rather than thought) in relation to what you observe: 
"You feel. . . "

NEEDS
3. What you need or value (rather than a preference, or a specific action) that causes your feelings: 
". . . because you need/value. . ." 

REQUESTS
Empathetically receiving that which would enrich your life without hearing any demand
"Would you like . . . ?"
(Sometimes unspoken when offering empathy)